I really wanted to UpLevel my ride. I woke up the day before Thanksgiving and decided: today was the day! And if I wanted to show off my car to all of my family and friends over the holidays, then I needed to buy it today!
I frantically made all of the arrangements. Call the bank, call the dealer, ”how about 250 dollars less than then your lowest offer?” Awesome, at least I FELT like I was getting a good deal. It’s not like he would actually accept it…
Wait, did he say yes?!
That means I’m going to Greenville to buy a new car. Right now.
The dealership says it closes at 8pm. I rushed by the bank to grab a check and made it there literally 3 minutes before it closed.
I pulled up to the dealership at 8:15pm. But, late as I was, at Kevin Whitaker Chevrolet-Cadillac in Greenville, SC, they were all smiles as they waited for me to fight the rush hour traffic and the flat tire to get there. I was grateful, especially the day before Thanksgiving.
In 20 minutes, I had completed the paperwork. They made it very easy to spend the money.
I jump in my car. It’s mine – this beauty of a car that freaky fast that I’ve wanted for such a long time.
Immediately, a flood of negative thoughts come over me. Should I really have this car? What will people think? I’m too young to buy a sports car. It is a big liability. Am I selfish? Is this too much?
All of these thoughts stayed with me as I drove home. As amazing as the new car was, I still had some nagging questions. I dealt with the feelings after a talk with an amazing friend who reminded me of several life lessons that I wanted to share.
- Don’t be afraid to grab life big and don’t kid yourself into thinking that everyone will be jealous if you do – they don’t care.
Most people spend most of their time thinking about themselves.
- Keep your promises to yourself.
This car was a promise I made to myself: that I would buy it after I purchased my third martial arts location. Black Belts are honest and truthful …even to themselves. You must be able to trust yourself.
Shout-out to Mr. Bond, Grandmaster Mun, and Mr. St. Clair for kicking butt in their second month. Great things to come at UpLevel Martial Arts Waxhaw!
- Stuff will never ever make you happy…unless it can go from 0-60 in 4 seconds.
I was basically just as happy before my new toy as I was after my new toy. Seriously, it didn’t really change much – I went back to life as normal…ok, almost normal. (Though I can’t lie – the smile on my face to go from 0-60 mph in 4 seconds is ridiculous!)
- Have fun. You live once and you WILL die.
Don’t take life too seriously – no one I’ve known has ever gotten out alive. Enjoy it. This is also not a license to be stupid. Think through your choices. Can you afford it? Are you leaving those that come after you a legacy… or a bunch of debt?
- Give back and be grateful.
I’m amazed that you can buy big things for yourself and yet feel more happy giving $5 to a homeless person. The good book says it best in Acts 20:35, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ After driving this beauty home, I wrote out several things I wanted to make sure I was giving after receiving something so amazing. I want my life to be full of amazing things and experiences AND genuine contribution.
- Make sure you are living a life you FREAKING enjoy and not just working to attain some far -off thing or goal.
Because when that thing (a new car or promotion or girl or guy or whatever) comes along, it won’t make you happy and you will go back to your life as you’ve built it – like it or not!
The question I believe you should ask is this:
Do I like my life just as it is now? If not, change THAT. Don’t cover it up with a toy or a person and think they will change you. Nope! The car didn’t change my life – and I went back to the life that I love!
I train my staff. I encourage them to Grab Life Big. I give them opportunities. I kiss my beautiful girlfriend. I work out. I set new goals. I listen to music. I dance. I train martial arts. I forge leaders. I give back. I make a difference.
I do all the things I love to do because I love to do them and have designed a life I freaking love! It’s not about the next thing – it’s about NOW.
Time for you to do the same. I hope you will call me if you are in a career that is not fulfilling or pays the bills but you hate. I can help with that. Come join my team!
Come change the world through raising up and forging people into leaders for life through martial arts!